पुत्र गेला पिता गेला आता मायेविना पोरका 

रडू नको असे  आम्हा  आज कोणी म्हणू नका 

उद्याच झेलू जगास आम्ही आज एकटे राहू द्या 

काठोकाठ दुखः भरले थोडे तरी वाहू द्या 

CHARITY IN MEMORY OF SALIL

TODAY 27TH JUNE HAPPENED TO BE MY BIRTH DAY. RECEIVED WISHES FROM OVER HUNDRED RELATIVES, FRIENDS AND WELL WISHERS BY POSTINGS ON NET, SMS ON CELL OR CALLS OR LETTERS. OVERWHELMING.  MANY MANY THANKS FOR ALL DEAR FRIENDS WHO HAVE WISHED ME ON OCCASION OF BIRTH DAY. IT DOES BOOST MORAL. I WOULD URGE YOU TO REMEMBER 29TH JUNE TOO. ME AND MY FAMILY VISIT A SHELTER SALIL SAHJEEVAN NAMED AFTER SALIL SINCE 1997. I WOULD VERY MUCH LIKE TO EXPAND ON FAMILY CONCEPT AND INCLUDE ALL THOSE WHO REMEMBER ME ON MY BIRTHDAY. WE WILL VISIT SALAIL SAHJEEVAN RUN BY AASRA TRUST AT VILLAGE DIGHE, NAVI MUMBAI. WE HAVE ALREADY RECIEVED DONATIONS TO THE TRUST FROM FEW. SINCERE APPEAL DONATE TO THE TRUST AS MUCH AS YOU CAN. WE WILL BE HANDING OVER CHECKS TO THEM ON 29TH AT 5.00 PM. EVERY ONE WHO CARES TO JOIN IS WELCOME.
ARVIND KHARE
27-6-2013.

N.B. 
I HAVE COMMITTED TO FIND OUT THE NAME OF MY GRAND MOTHER FROM MATERNAL SIDE. SHE IS LAXMI NARAYAN GONDHALEKAR. SALUTE TO YOU NANI.

Mazya Aaicha Warsa. ( Legacy of My Mother )

Mangla Manohar Khare. My mother. Died on 5th June 2013.

Manohar and Khare were common between us. Manohar is already gone. Khare will sure last longer than Either Manohar or Mangala or Arvind. How long ? Do the family names  become instinct at any time ? My father had had three sons but only one grandson and two great grandsons. Better assured legacy for my father. I had only one son who rushed to die. My younger brother did not have any son. Do we become dead end branches ? Fit for chopping off as dead wood ?

I hope not because we have one daughter each. Some lone daughters have already started adding both family names. ( Note just the maiden family name and not that of father ) After all family names are adopted. Fashion of adoption can change.

The point I want to make is what happens to legacy of mother ? Only to be called out during Shradhha along with Mother in law, grand Mother in law and Great grand Mother in law ? No utterance of the name of her mother or grand mother or great grand mother with whom she has direct bialogical link.
Not right. If at all one has to remember fore fathers one must remember fore mothers also. So I thought it fit to write about my legacy from mother's side. It is my personal way of remembering her.
My mother was only girl child of my grand mother ( Dont know her name and have not seen her ) wife of Narayan Vasudev  Gondhalekar who was only child ( Girl or boy ) of my great grand mother Sundarabai Karmarkar whose memories I carry and mentioned here in earlier blog.

On 14th of June ( 10th day of death date ) my elder brother will perform rituals where names of my grand Mother Laxmi Laxman Khare will be uttered along with her Mother in law Satyabhma Ramchandra Khare and grand mother in law Ganga Bhikaji Khare ( All well  recorded ). My maternal grand mother had three sons as well. Her legacy is better carried. My great grand mother was as unfortunate as I am.

Oh my fore mothers ! Decidedly I am as much part of you as that of  my fore fathers.

Mothers never die. They are real and unquestionable carrier of legacy and yet ignored so much.
Pity on this system.

I intend to write more about my mother again and will make it my business to know name of my grand mother.

Arvind Khare
12-6-2013

सुनित 

मी कोणाचा नाही म्हणुनी माझे कोणी नाही 
जे जे काही जग मी पाही माझे बनून राही !! १ !!

कितीक पात्रे कितीक गात्रे विमर्ष हर्ष कितीही 
काळ पुढती स्मृति मागुती कधी स्तब्ध कधी वाही !!२!!

गाणे , हसणे ,रडणे , चीडणे विभ्रम सारे  एक मी निर्मोही 
उठती, बसती, पसरत जाती, सर्व प्रवाह नी लाटाही  !!३!!

हर्ष खेद  नी येणे जाणे सोयर सुतक नाही 
रिकामाच मी तेवा होतो रिकामाच आताही !!४!!

इतके सारे कळूनही मजला नाहीच कळले  काही 
शेवट कळला म्हणुनी ना कळे कथा अशी लवलाही  !!५!!

कुणास  कळले कुणी शिकवले परंपरा कशी ही 
बदलूनी चेला गुरु  बदलूनी खेळ संपत नाही !!६!!

क्षणोक्षणी प्रश्न फिरवुनी सतत सताविते काही 
विचार  करुनी वा विचारूनही उत्तर येत नाही  !!७!!


ता : १ ४  मे २० १ ३ 
ठिकाण : ठाणे हेंल्थ केअर 
प्रसंग  : आईचे आजारपण 

कवितेच्या पानावर

कवितेच्या पानावर 

दवबिंदुची थर थर 

जाशी जाणीव अधर 

आता होती नेली कोणी 

कवितेच्या पानावर 

स्फटिक तो आरस्पानी 

हिरव्या मध्ये हरवुनी 

रूप हिरवे लेवुनी 

कवितेच्या पानावर 

साद घालतसे वारा 

जीव होतसे अधीरा 

आपणास संपवुनी 

कवितेच्या पानावर 

शब्दरुपी लगबग 

काय काय सांगतसे 

काही गेलेच राहुनी 

कवितेच्या पानावर 

सूर्य माथ्यावर आला 

रंग हिरवा चालला 

थेम्बा थेम्बा घालवुनी 

कवितेच्या पानावर 

पानोपानी कुजबुज 

नवे रूप नवा साज 

कोण येइल घालुनी 

कवितेच्या पानावर 

रंग मातीचा चढला 

देठ वालन्या लागला 

ओढ मातीची लावुनी

कवितेच्या पानावर 

दिसे मिटण्याची घाई 

तयारीत दंग होई 

रहावया माती पाणी 

Arvind Khare

17-3-2013

देवाची भेट

काय हवे ते कळेना
कोण देई ते कळेना
कसे मागू ते कळेना
दिले का नाही कळेना  ....  जीव शांत होईना I १ I

अपुरेपणाची जाणीव
अर्धवट ज्ञानाची नेणीव
मी मीपणाची राणीव
समाधान काही होईना  ..... जीव शांत होईना इ I २ I

दुखः कसे ते सोसेना
सुखाची हौस भागेना
पाठलाग तो थांबेना
वाढावी संपत्ती दैना    .....   जीव शांत होईना  I  ३ I

किती करू समजावणी
कोणाची करू आळवणी
अनेक शंका अडचणी
थारा कसा तो लागेना   .......  जीव शांत  होईना  I ४ I

अवचित देव भेटला
बाल निरागस हासला
देव तेथे निहारला
आनंद फिरुनी गवसला ....... जीव  शांत जाहला I ५ I

देवाची भेट  झालीना झालीना झालीना

देवाची भेट झालीना झालीना झालीना

New year resolution

01-01-2013

Nothing like new resolutions for new year.
Does not matter if new year has 365 days to live and the resolution invariably less days to live.
The age has not diminished the desire to resolve fresh.
Nor it is enough to have a single resolution.
The day before yesterday we Khares from Thane had a get together. 
Most of the resolutions did not go beyond regularly exercising to reduce weight or to curb impulse to fight or to go for tour and so on. 
One of them wanted an exhibition of paintings made so far.
That underlined the fact that  you cannot be more than the resolutions you made.
So why be  miser while making them ?
Here let me put down many of them I have given to myself.

1 Writing :-
To publish at least one more book in the year. Complete writing of at least one another for next year. To write the blog at least three times in a week. That keeps you using your gray cells.
2 To take music tuition's seriously. Prepare good study material for students. Use harmonium more liberally while teaching. Engage in self tuition. To seek more public perfomances
3 To continue with the platforms of Swabodh Parivar and Swabodh Prakashan as judiciously as possible.
4 To manage better financial desciplione
5 To keep the mood jolly as much and as long as possible.

The wish list can go on. But let me hold back something for years to come after this year !

Arvind Khare